Healing

The Self-Compassion and Self-Responsibility Dance

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When we hit the road on the personal growth path, we are often faced with paradox.  

I happen to think it’s because we live in a paradox world.  Want to feel joy?  Gotta know what pain is.  In fact, have to be willing to feel both.  You get it.

Today I want to touch upon the paradox of self-responsibility and self-compassion.

I’ve been deep diving of late into the book “The Little Money Bible” after our December You Matter International Money Mindset workshop.  In fact, I’m having fun sharing a quote a day inside of our You Matter International FB group in order to keep meditating on quotes from it this month.

One quote in particular says “I hope you will see that in some instances, compassion can be described as the manifestation of love in action.  And that money is, in part, the fuel by which you express greater compassion- by transcending a poor self-image, loving yourself, being there for others; and by being grateful for the immense gift that has been bestowed upon you, the first and greatest gift you will ever receive- the gift of life.” - Stuart Wilde, The Little Money Bible

Ah!  I love looking at money, and receiving it, in connection with the practice of self-love and self-compassion.  In another part of the book however, he shares that “people now realize that they are responsible for their own empowerment.  They see that taking responsibility is a spiritual act; it allows each one the freedom to become more.  Accepting responsibility is an uncomfortable thing, for within that idea is the birth of the true individual.”

Ultimately then, our abundance or lack thereof, is part of accepting our responsibility for where we are at in the world.  And taking responsibility sounds great, until you become a victim of something atrocious, or you get diagnosed with that illness, or you are simply born into rotten circumstances.

So how do we honor our victimhood to life while looking to claim our wholeness, our healing, our empowerment?  

I think that it lies in accepting a metaphysical responsibility for where we find ourselves now, as conscious adults, in life, because it is from here that we can then find the empowered view that brings us the traction to move into a renewed state of living. It is then that we can claim our power in life so as to move forward with forgiveness, love, strength, and wisdom.  From there we can then truly live life with joy, abundance, and loving relationships.  

You might ask then how do I rectify becoming fully self-responsible for where I am in my life, with money and with health and with all of the things, while also having heaps of loving self-compassion for what has come about? Can I lovingly accept my imperfections, my falls, my moments of victimhood and my moments as perpetrator in order to be more fully human?  A human capable of being a bigger vehicle for real love, which sees all, accepts all, and chooses to embody and gift big heapings of acceptance to the world?  

I think that holding a very loving and compassionate dose of self-responsibility is key to claiming a fulfilling life.  Maybe in fact, it’s totally an expression of self-love to accept self-responsibility (empowerment) for being able to be with life as it is.  And from as it is, we can then steer our life towards that which we want to create, all while holding huge heaps of self-love and self-compassion for the as-isness of life now.

I love that the quote on self-compassion in The Little Money Bible actually would then imply that by holding that, we actually align more to loving flow, and ultimately to gratitude and amplification of the metaphysical attraction energy that will bring more of what we are wanting into our lives.

So maybe heaps of self-responsibility (empowered view) and self-compassion can help us to bring about more loving joy in the world, manifest as action, energy, and money, that we can then spread around for the good of life!

This is certainly my mission, and I am grateful for the many of you who are aligned on this path!

Here is to a year of heaps of loving self-compassion, coupled with intentional alignment to the flow of love and divine expression in life as our Love Bomber selves.  Here is to the amplification of love in action, of connection, of healing.  Love really is brave isn’t it?

Xo

Dr. Rhea Zimmerman Komarek

P.S. Ready for a deep dive transformation process focused on absolute unconditional loving approval designed to help you amplify your gifts to life?  Consider joining us in the My Love Bomb Program starting February 5 - March 30 or bring it to your town as a My Love Bomb Program Facilitator this year by taking the program virtually February 5th-March 30th and signing up for the 2018 Facilitator Training.

 

MLB Insider's Scoop Week 4 of 8: Trauma as Transformation

Hi There, Rhea here.

What a week in the world.  This has been a heart breaking week for us in the U.S. with another mass-murder.  Wow, writing those words makes it sink in even more.  I hate that since the making of this film there have been so many moments where the mission of the healing we were demonstrating is so stupidly relevant.  

When we were filming the interview of Marilyn Schlitz and Dean Radin we turned on our phones in between to find out that Sandy Hook had happened.  My face was already on fire from a combination of reaction to a facial the day before (I had woken with it swelled up all around) and the news that week that mom's cancer had metastasized.  

Life sometimes seems to just keep kicking us in the ass instead of taming down to a calm keel.  And the story of when it rains it pours, well, that happened this past month as well.

In the depths of the fact that part of life is trauma, and these traumas are a combination of human caused, human behavior related, and nature taking it's course, we have chosen to address the possibility of trauma as a transformational process within the My Love Bomb Program, and, inside of the film Love Bomb itself.

In fact, if you are looking for a full injection of the hope inside of humans, and our capacity to heal and transform, after you watch the clip, watch the film, it's free here.

Angels are all around us in the form of human helpers, we are stronger than we think, and pain is an indication of the need for healing, and healing is a form of transformation.  There is also no road to healing that I know of that doesn't involve moving through the pain to get to the other side.  If you need to feel uplifting possibility, tune in to the good that being shared about all of the human helpers that put their lives on a limb to help out on Monday in Las Vegas.  The good ones outweigh the bad, and we can heal from this, and hopefully, embody the vulnerable journey of becoming Love Bombers.

In fact, I'm going to share what that means right here in terms of our values, because, it takes grit, courage, and community to be open hearted and loving in the face of what life is asking of us:

  • We practice unconditional Love.

  • We empower and take care of ourselves so that we can do the same for others.

  • We believe everyone has inherent value and gifts to offer the world.

  • We anchor to the heart.

  • We are stronger together.

  • We forgive each other and ourselves.

  • We accept responsibility for our actions and their impact on others.

  • We find power on the other side of our vulnerability.

  • We have fun.  ;)  

  • We take a stand.

  • We achieve our vision with grit and healthy endurance.

Together we stay alive, we stay human, which means a willingness to break open instead of break down and shut down.  The lotus blossoms from the murky waters, and we can do that individually and collectively.  

Meanwhile, as my dear friend and My Love Bomb Facilitator Dr. Lauren Clum would say, you all are in my love bubble, so if you need some extra encouragement or hand holding during this time, reach out by connecting over at our Facebook group, You Matter International.

Big Love!

Rhea

When Good Change is Scary, Keep Going

"You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore." - Andre Gide.

One of the most transformational experiences of my life was sailing out to the open ocean and losing sight of the shore for the first time, knowing I'd see land two weeks later. This was pre-internet connections! Watch if you need a trust the process pep talk, a few new ideas to understand your own change process (pain, discomfort, fear, muck), and encouragement for a loving container in the process.

Building Renewal by Being Here Now

Happy Renewal Day!

Yeah that's not a thing, but it is today, because with Breathe Love still free for another week I've recorded a quick video inspiration for recognizing when we're in our running energy vs. building energy.

This is a great video for an injection of inspiration to land into the moment and do a little end of First Quarter of the year self-reflection on, what are you creating in your life?

If you haven't yet downloaded the free Breathe Love, I recommend jumping on the offer:

Go to this link, place the Breathe Love album in the cart, and use promo code MyLoveBombGift to get the whole album for free through March 14th, 2017!

How do I face my family? (Happy Thanksforgiving)

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Today in the United States we are celebrating Thanksgiving, a time of gathering with family and friends and sharing in gratitude amidst the plethora of other life circumstances that surround us.  It is an amazing opportunity to focus on the good, and today, I give an added message of bringing the power of forgiveness to the table.

I hope that today brings love for millions around the country, and the world.  May the good in our hearts amplify and take shape.

Love,

Rhea

 

Where is Your Compass Taking You?

Hi There Love Bombers,

Last week I was all about what you stand for, and today I bring that theme forward ask I ask you where your compass is taking you.

Do you know where you are heading?  Do you feel connected to your own innate voice, innate drive, innate direction?

As we round up on the end of 2016 and start to focus on the glimmers of what we want to build out of 2017 and beyond, it is so powerful to remain true to your inner compass, and to take the time to connect to it.

If you are looking for further ways to sink deep IN to you, and to building more connection to your own happiness and fulfillment while giving the gifts you know you are meant to give to life, then I recommend you check out the My Love Bomb Program for the February-March 2017 round in Napa, California, or even consider the path of bringing it to your city for 2017.

What Do You Stand For?

Hello my Love Bomber family.

Today I bring you a podcast of the week that is an FB Live presentation,...I am back with "Best Day Ever" live videos to bring you a message from the heart addressing the pain, the disorientation, and the rickety "what next" so many people are feeling right now.

This 20 minutes will align you, regardless of your political leanings, into a vision for building your next empowered step.

I share my own vision, which is laid out right here.

If you align with this message, and want to be a part of what I am building, I welcome a connection.

You can email me at dr.rhea@blossomlife.com to start the conversation.

We are in this together.  With Love.  Which is Courage.  Which is Listening.

Big Love!

Rhea

For the Love Of Your Body, A Conversation and A Meditation

Dr. Rhea in Sequoia National Park with her son Destry

Dr. Rhea in Sequoia National Park with her son Destry

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Sometimes what we really need is a Love Bomb right to ourselves.  Sort of the "put the mask on you first before you put it on the child."

This conversation and meditation focus on love, right here, right now, for the cells of your body.  

I am finding this incredibly useful for stopping and pressing play on love that will literally become the chemistry of my body.  It also happens to be a 20 minute guided meditation, the exact amount of time that Dr. Herbert Benson found to be the magic number for a daily "relaxation response" practice for helping our bodies to get out of stress response and into ease, which has a myriad amount of positive affects on health overall.

I also find that, well, calm happy full of love Rhea means nicer Rhea.  And that contributes love bombs to everyone, especially those closest to me who sometimes take the brunt of it when I have fallen into cranky not love bombing Rhea.  Pretty sure I'm not alone in that one!

So, go ahead and connect to the content with the podcast conversation, and then sink into a self-care self-love experience with the meditation.  Then do the meditation again tomorrow.  And the next day.  See what happens if you commit to a week, and then do another week.  

Here is to absolutely nourishing and loving ourselves as well shed so much love on others!

Here is to being love bombers!

Big Love,

Rhea

P.S.  If you love this self-love experience, you will probably love the My Love Bomb Program.  

P.P.S.  Want more free stuff?  Check out the "My Balanced Life" 3 Part Free Mini Course by jumping into Part 1 Right here.

The Beautiful Story of Mindfulness, with Amy Tirion

Amy Tirion

Amy Tirion

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I get the opportunity this week to speak with another Culture Changer.  While our guest Linda Inlay focused on how she strategically helps schools to adapt new and healthy cultures, our guest this week Amy shares about how she is bringing mindfulness into corporations where she helps individuals to find their whole wholeness, while helping corporations build more mindful, kind, and healthy cultures as well.

I got connected to Amy when a friend tipped me off to her sweet book "Knowing Beautiful, A New Bedtime Story for Women."  She speaks about how she gained inspiration from reading her children their sweet bedtime stories, and how it helped her to realize women could use a conscious new bedtime story from criticism and not good enough, to love, acknowledgement, and acceptance.

Once again, it is so awesome to get to know a woman out there who is making an incredible difference in her world.

To connect with her:

DelightForTheSoul.com

PotentialProject.com

More on Amy:

Amy Tirion is a Speaker, author, mindfulness consultant and founder of Delight for the Soul, Amy Tirion leads employee engagement and individual wellness and mindfulness programs that focus on the intellect, energy, and emotion of personal change.

Amy's profession started with a ten-year change management consulting career with Accenture included leading their "People, Values, and Culture" programs for the 1200 employees within their Bay Area offices. In 2011, she started Delight for the Soul to offer one-of-a-kind experiences that help her clients access their own source of wisdom, clarity, and inspiration.

Amy is one of fourteen inspiring women profiled nationally in a documentary series on Inner Beauty produced by Elizabeth Arden. Amy's book entitled Knowing Beautiful: A New Bedtime Story for Women won the national 2015 Silver Medal Living Now Award.


Amy's current focus it to bring mindfulness into organizations, as a consultant with the global firm, The Potential Project. She is also an artist, dancer, contributor to the Huffington Post and a restorative yoga trainer. Amy uses her background to bring different modalities of mind-body and creative exploration to her clients for holistic support of their change journey. Amy lives in San Francisco with her husband and two teenage daughters.

 

 

On The Other Side of Fear, is Freedom.

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This is probably my absolute favorite quick FB Live that I did during the three weeks leading up to the launch of the My Love Bomb Program in Napa.  I felt so inspired when talking about making that leap through the threshold of fear onto the other side,....where freedom lies.

This is a great quick listen for a boost of confidence when stepping forward in your life.

Women Empowering Women. It's The Shift that Dr. Lacey Book is All About.

Dr. Lacey Book, D.C.

Dr. Lacey Book, D.C.

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The Love Bombers journey continues in this conversation with Lacey Book.  I am just getting to know this powerful woman and it is a joy to be in connection with her.

In this interview conversation we talk about our mutual discovery of landing in collaborate support with other powerful women and exciting that is to us right now.

She also shares powerfully about her own journey of landing into listening to her own innate voice and the path it has led her on as a chiropractor working with women entrepreneurs who are looking for more work-life balance and looking to gain more freedom in their lives through maintaining a healthier state.

This led her to start "The Shift", a community of women that support each other in all of the shifts in their lives.  She started it this year, and it already has three chapters with 200 members in her community.

She is a power house woman with a vision, traveling and sharing her message on stages across the world.

To connect with Lacey directly:  www.laceybook.com

 

 

Unleash Your Capacity To Heal, Connect, and Contribute, with Dr. Marilyn Schlitz

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I had the grace of connecting to Marilyn Schlitz for the first time when interviewing her for the film Love Bomb.  This relationship continued after the film as a friendship as Producers of media that contributes to the transformation of others.  She is a cultural anthropologist, mind-body researcher, and award winning writer.  Her books and films include Consciousness and Healing: Integral Approaches to Mind Body Medicine; Living Deeply:  The Art and Science of Transformation; and Death Makes Life Possible.  The film, Death Makes Life Possible has toured the world through film festivals and community viewings.  It was aired on the Oprah Winfrey Network in late 2015.   

We talk about her next projects and how she is helping people to make worldview shifts into their own noetic knowing including an incredible program she is releasing on the power of consciousness to produce deep healing, radiant health, and living a long and productive life.

You can connect to her free online event on July 20 at 5:30 PM PST right here:  Using the Power of Your Consciousness for Healing:  Discover the X-Factor in Creating Radiant Health right here.

Marilyn is a gift of wisdom and heart and I encourage you to connect with her through her free programming, podcast, and books!

 

 

 

 

 

 

The Story of a Brave and Adventurous Love Bombing Paramedic, with Meg Rosecrans

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Meg’s Love Bomber work is a combination paramedic, paramedic instructor, and take life by the hands optimistic adventure seeker.  She inspires people to live each day to the fullest, and, she’s overcome some challenges in the pursuit of a full life.  She has a condition called “Achalasia” and has grown up with a shorter arm than most, leading her to look a little different than the norm.  She begins by sharing about how she learned as a kid to help disarm others confusion or discomfort with humor.

She goes on to share how she intentionally brings an extra touch of love to her job as paramedic, helping people while they are having very, very bad days.  Her ability to care for others in her environment is inspiring, coupled with her own dedication to living an "alive' life of adventure.

I hope this adventure inspires anyone needing a lift off of the rut and the couch to get on out there and try.

 

The Life Saving Power of Laughter, with Margaret McCarthie, Suicide Survivor Turned Clown

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What can I say.  You need to listen to this podcast.

Margaret reached out to me shortly after the release of Love Bomb after she saw it online.  At first I didn't know what to think, who was this clown person?  I am a convert to understanding after listening to her story.  I felt like my heart was blasted with love (yep, a Love Bomb) from hearing her incredible story of healing, love, and synchronicity.

She shares about how she moved from several suicide attempts and a psych ward to deep healing through the power of laughter working with Patch Adams in China and Tibet.

The simplicity of the gift of love and clowning inspires me through her story and is one of those "no skills" way to dramatically uplift one's own life.  Also, she says things like "wee teaspoon of hope."  

Listen.

To get involved with the Patch Adams trips she speaks of:  http://www.patchadams.org/global-outreach/clown-missions/

The Transformational Power of Birth as Metaphor and Reality, with Kate Coletti

Kate Coletti, Creator of "Enlightened Birth"

Kate Coletti, Creator of "Enlightened Birth"

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In this Love Bombers conversation I connect with Kate Coletti.  Kate has over 15 years of experience in women's health as a midwife, birth educator and advocate, prenatal yoga instructor, massage therapist and prenatal massage instructor, doula trainer, and mama.

She shares frankly about the power of having a strong "why" for choosing natural birth, the support network to go towards it, and how she assists women through her Enlightened Birth day retreats.  In the conversation we end up exploring the power of birth as experience, and as metaphor for any Love Bomber on a journey of creation and metamorphosis in their own lives.

Beautiful image from www.katecoletti.com

Beautiful image from www.katecoletti.com

 

I continue to be in awe of how the chemistry and physiology of our bodies mimic the very emotional and spiritual experiences we go on in our lives, and how, by design, we are meant to live in love.  From conception, to birth, to life itself.

To connect with Kate:  www.katecoletti.com

Why Every Love Bomber Should Be Talking About Sex, With Sexologist Randi Levinson

Randi Levinson, M.A. CSC, CSE

Randi Levinson, M.A. CSC, CSE

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This is a unique conversation for me with Randi into a discovery of how her gifts contribute to healing and intimacy for couples, and ultimately, to adding to the reconnection and healing for human beings on a larger scale towards letting go of shame, finding self acceptance, and letting sex be a healthy part of our lives.

I am fascinated by the "Big Idea" of Love Bombers visions.  As Chiropractors this concept is very important to us.  We love looking at how the micro of what we do can impact the health of a culture.  Through this conversation with Randi I got to the awesome intersection of her natural calling to serve with the Big Idea of a more whole, more happy, more connection humanity.

Are you curious about how finding your "blissed out sexuality" could contribute to world peace?  

Give a listen.

More about Randi:  Randi received her B.A. in Psychology and went on to get a Master's Degree in Clinical Psychology and Marriage and Family Therapy at John F. Kennedy University in Berkeley, California.  She is a Certified Clinical Sexologist, Sex Expert and Certified Sex Coach.  

Her belief is that if your sexual activities are not harming you or others and there is consent with other adults- it is all okay and there is no "normal."

To connect with her: http://www.randilevinson.com 

 

 

 

Addiction, Healing, and Service

Dr. Rhea Zimmerman with long time friend Melissa Sivvy while on tour with Love Bomb in New England during the fall of 2014.

Dr. Rhea Zimmerman with long time friend Melissa Sivvy while on tour with Love Bomb in New England during the fall of 2014.

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This interview features the story of a long time friend Melissa Sivvy whose recovery from paralysis of the legs after Guillain Barre Syndrome and then healing from alcohol and drug addiction has deeply inspired me.  To literally watch someone find their legs again is a thing of grace.

She is now finishing her master's degree in psychology at Goddard College and is registered as a non-licensed psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Her work lately has been focused on Refuge Recovery (a Buddhism-based program for addictions of all kinds), which has lead her to an interest in providing proper care for incarcerated people who suffer from addiction and other mental health afflictions. Melissa intends to pursue a PhD in Forensic Psychology where she will gain the training and knowledge needed to advocate for policy changes within the United State's corrections system. 

Resources for help with addiction and finding connection to others mentioned in the podcast are:

Alcoholics Anonymous

Refuge Recovery

and another not mentioned is

Attitudinal Healing