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The Self-Compassion and Self-Responsibility Dance

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When we hit the road on the personal growth path, we are often faced with paradox.  

I happen to think it’s because we live in a paradox world.  Want to feel joy?  Gotta know what pain is.  In fact, have to be willing to feel both.  You get it.

Today I want to touch upon the paradox of self-responsibility and self-compassion.

I’ve been deep diving of late into the book “The Little Money Bible” after our December You Matter International Money Mindset workshop.  In fact, I’m having fun sharing a quote a day inside of our You Matter International FB group in order to keep meditating on quotes from it this month.

One quote in particular says “I hope you will see that in some instances, compassion can be described as the manifestation of love in action.  And that money is, in part, the fuel by which you express greater compassion- by transcending a poor self-image, loving yourself, being there for others; and by being grateful for the immense gift that has been bestowed upon you, the first and greatest gift you will ever receive- the gift of life.” - Stuart Wilde, The Little Money Bible

Ah!  I love looking at money, and receiving it, in connection with the practice of self-love and self-compassion.  In another part of the book however, he shares that “people now realize that they are responsible for their own empowerment.  They see that taking responsibility is a spiritual act; it allows each one the freedom to become more.  Accepting responsibility is an uncomfortable thing, for within that idea is the birth of the true individual.”

Ultimately then, our abundance or lack thereof, is part of accepting our responsibility for where we are at in the world.  And taking responsibility sounds great, until you become a victim of something atrocious, or you get diagnosed with that illness, or you are simply born into rotten circumstances.

So how do we honor our victimhood to life while looking to claim our wholeness, our healing, our empowerment?  

I think that it lies in accepting a metaphysical responsibility for where we find ourselves now, as conscious adults, in life, because it is from here that we can then find the empowered view that brings us the traction to move into a renewed state of living. It is then that we can claim our power in life so as to move forward with forgiveness, love, strength, and wisdom.  From there we can then truly live life with joy, abundance, and loving relationships.  

You might ask then how do I rectify becoming fully self-responsible for where I am in my life, with money and with health and with all of the things, while also having heaps of loving self-compassion for what has come about? Can I lovingly accept my imperfections, my falls, my moments of victimhood and my moments as perpetrator in order to be more fully human?  A human capable of being a bigger vehicle for real love, which sees all, accepts all, and chooses to embody and gift big heapings of acceptance to the world?  

I think that holding a very loving and compassionate dose of self-responsibility is key to claiming a fulfilling life.  Maybe in fact, it’s totally an expression of self-love to accept self-responsibility (empowerment) for being able to be with life as it is.  And from as it is, we can then steer our life towards that which we want to create, all while holding huge heaps of self-love and self-compassion for the as-isness of life now.

I love that the quote on self-compassion in The Little Money Bible actually would then imply that by holding that, we actually align more to loving flow, and ultimately to gratitude and amplification of the metaphysical attraction energy that will bring more of what we are wanting into our lives.

So maybe heaps of self-responsibility (empowered view) and self-compassion can help us to bring about more loving joy in the world, manifest as action, energy, and money, that we can then spread around for the good of life!

This is certainly my mission, and I am grateful for the many of you who are aligned on this path!

Here is to a year of heaps of loving self-compassion, coupled with intentional alignment to the flow of love and divine expression in life as our Love Bomber selves.  Here is to the amplification of love in action, of connection, of healing.  Love really is brave isn’t it?

Xo

Dr. Rhea Zimmerman Komarek

P.S. Ready for a deep dive transformation process focused on absolute unconditional loving approval designed to help you amplify your gifts to life?  Consider joining us in the My Love Bomb Program starting February 5 - March 30 or bring it to your town as a My Love Bomb Program Facilitator this year by taking the program virtually February 5th-March 30th and signing up for the 2018 Facilitator Training.

 

Ready for a Mini-Journey? My Love Bomb Program Week 1 of 8

Hi There!  It's Rhea and I am fresh inside of Week 1 of the My Love Bomb Program after months of preparations.  Last night's group experience in Napa was so wonderfully heart warming.  I feel an instal-boost of relaxation into love, enough-ness, support, and being right here.  That combined with the group call from Monday night where we instantly saw just how not alone we are in our desires to serve, our sometimes isolation, our uncertainties of where we're heading, and our insta-tonified feeling from connection has me feeling ready to share the experience with you in a mini-version.

Me and the rest of the facilitators will be letting you in on min-bits of what we are doing each week while inviting you to join us with a little exercise that can help you to pause, soften, open, listen, and expand into the next evolutionary level of you.

This week we're asking you to take a pause of intentional self love and love of others, use that to intention to open up.  Then, in a relaxed way, listen to the little "anxious tugs" inside if yourself, allow them to bubble forward as a question.  Write those questions down.  That's it!  No answer finding, no goal setting, just, what is my question?

From questions come answers, steps, and the light becomes shined on stagnancy so that momentum of healing and change and answers can begin.  

I'll be back next week with another step, and I'll also be sharing these inside of the You Matter International Facebook group where other women like you are hanging out.

Big Love!

Rhea

How do I face my family? (Happy Thanksforgiving)

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Today in the United States we are celebrating Thanksgiving, a time of gathering with family and friends and sharing in gratitude amidst the plethora of other life circumstances that surround us.  It is an amazing opportunity to focus on the good, and today, I give an added message of bringing the power of forgiveness to the table.

I hope that today brings love for millions around the country, and the world.  May the good in our hearts amplify and take shape.

Love,

Rhea

 

What Do You Stand For?

Hello my Love Bomber family.

Today I bring you a podcast of the week that is an FB Live presentation,...I am back with "Best Day Ever" live videos to bring you a message from the heart addressing the pain, the disorientation, and the rickety "what next" so many people are feeling right now.

This 20 minutes will align you, regardless of your political leanings, into a vision for building your next empowered step.

I share my own vision, which is laid out right here.

If you align with this message, and want to be a part of what I am building, I welcome a connection.

You can email me at dr.rhea@blossomlife.com to start the conversation.

We are in this together.  With Love.  Which is Courage.  Which is Listening.

Big Love!

Rhea

For the Love Of Your Body, A Conversation and A Meditation

Dr. Rhea in Sequoia National Park with her son Destry

Dr. Rhea in Sequoia National Park with her son Destry

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Sometimes what we really need is a Love Bomb right to ourselves.  Sort of the "put the mask on you first before you put it on the child."

This conversation and meditation focus on love, right here, right now, for the cells of your body.  

I am finding this incredibly useful for stopping and pressing play on love that will literally become the chemistry of my body.  It also happens to be a 20 minute guided meditation, the exact amount of time that Dr. Herbert Benson found to be the magic number for a daily "relaxation response" practice for helping our bodies to get out of stress response and into ease, which has a myriad amount of positive affects on health overall.

I also find that, well, calm happy full of love Rhea means nicer Rhea.  And that contributes love bombs to everyone, especially those closest to me who sometimes take the brunt of it when I have fallen into cranky not love bombing Rhea.  Pretty sure I'm not alone in that one!

So, go ahead and connect to the content with the podcast conversation, and then sink into a self-care self-love experience with the meditation.  Then do the meditation again tomorrow.  And the next day.  See what happens if you commit to a week, and then do another week.  

Here is to absolutely nourishing and loving ourselves as well shed so much love on others!

Here is to being love bombers!

Big Love,

Rhea

P.S.  If you love this self-love experience, you will probably love the My Love Bomb Program.  

P.P.S.  Want more free stuff?  Check out the "My Balanced Life" 3 Part Free Mini Course by jumping into Part 1 Right here.

Being a Culture Builder, with Linda Inlay

Linda Inlay

Linda Inlay

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Wow.  This is one of those podcast conversations where I want to say:  just listen.  Listen.

For those who need more cajoling,.....I'll share about it!  Linda Inlay is an educator who spent a career bringing a technique of culture building called "Awakening Wisdom" to schools.  She shares an incredible experience about building a culture based on responsibility, respect, resourcefulness, and responsiveness in schools.

I am inspired by the hope that she embodies for bringing change to our public schools and helping students and teachers and parents to gestate in environments that are designed to create natural and relaxed growth and development that starts with an assumption of acceptance.

As a builder of new culture with the My Love Bomb Program and a witness to seeing what happens when you intentionally create an environment of unconditional loving acceptance, I am very excited to think that her work could permeate the public domain.

If you are someone who works with teams in education, in business, or in your service work, this content can inspire you towards the system of culture that you build within yourself and those you are working with.

Together we make the worldview change from fear to love.  Inside of ourselves, and within our communities.  

More on the amazing Linda:  

Linda began her career as an educator at Our Lady of Sorrows School in Wahiawa, Hawaii, where she worked for fifteen years. There she collaborated with the founders of the Ho`āla Educational Philosophy, a combination of Adlerian principles and Carl Roger’s self-actualization theory. Ho`āla in Hawaiian means, “awakening of the self.” Today this way of organizing a school is called “Awakening wisdom.” This program emphasized the core values of responsibility, respect, resourcefulness, and responsiveness to be modeled by the adults in order to foster these same values in the students. 

In 1988 Linda left Hawaii for California, entering the public school system and serving for eighteen years as the principal of River School in Napa County, where she introduced Awakening Wisdom. She taught parenting classes to bring home and school culture together, and during her tenure, River School received two California Distinguished School Awards, the Promising Practices Award and National School of Character Award from the Character Education Partnership, and the California School Board Association’s Golden Bell Award. In 2012 River School also became a New Tech Network School where project-based learning is infused with technology as an engaging and effective methodology for teaching and learning. 

Linda has presented at numerous conferences: National Middle School Association, Character Education Partnership, California Middle School Association, National Charter Schools, California Charter Schools Association, North Coast Educational Summit. She has authored four articles published in ASCD’s Educational Leadership. Her thesis, Ho`āla School The Transformation of Character Through the Implicit Curriculum, continues to be used a training guide for teachers at schools. Her first journal article, “Creating a Culture of Respect Through the Implicit Curriculum”, was published in the January 2016 issue of Middle School Journal.

You can find her here:

www.LindaInlay.com

To get involved in "Village Napa" to help support teen mental and emotional health:

https://www.facebook.com/villagenapa/?fref=ts

The Transformational Power of Birth as Metaphor and Reality, with Kate Coletti

Kate Coletti, Creator of "Enlightened Birth"

Kate Coletti, Creator of "Enlightened Birth"

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In this Love Bombers conversation I connect with Kate Coletti.  Kate has over 15 years of experience in women's health as a midwife, birth educator and advocate, prenatal yoga instructor, massage therapist and prenatal massage instructor, doula trainer, and mama.

She shares frankly about the power of having a strong "why" for choosing natural birth, the support network to go towards it, and how she assists women through her Enlightened Birth day retreats.  In the conversation we end up exploring the power of birth as experience, and as metaphor for any Love Bomber on a journey of creation and metamorphosis in their own lives.

Beautiful image from www.katecoletti.com

Beautiful image from www.katecoletti.com

 

I continue to be in awe of how the chemistry and physiology of our bodies mimic the very emotional and spiritual experiences we go on in our lives, and how, by design, we are meant to live in love.  From conception, to birth, to life itself.

To connect with Kate:  www.katecoletti.com

The Freedom On the Other Side of Squeezed and Stressed, Part 2 with Lisa Reagan

Rhea "On Set" for Love Bomb with Lisa Reagan and Joseph Chilton Pearce, Visionary Leaders for the Magnificence of Human Potential.

Rhea "On Set" for Love Bomb with Lisa Reagan and Joseph Chilton Pearce, Visionary Leaders for the Magnificence of Human Potential.

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In part two of the reunion interview with Lisa Reagan we dive in to a paradigm shift that many people and parents are currently experiencing and aware of.  They are moving from a predominantly stress driven culture which drives us into a feeling of disconnection, isolation, and "squeezed thin," into a new paradigm of reclaiming calm, connection, and community.  It's the move from the head to the heart, and it is a courageous journey that she continues to refer to as "The Hero's Journey" as inspired by the work of Joseph Campbell.  She inspires us to know that our challenges and our squeeze are actually a call to action into more being and less doing.

Lisa has been on a Mother of a Quest for 17 years as an award-winning journalist, activist and nonprofit visionary, exploring the space between our unsustainable industrial culture and the emerging cultural story of what is possible for families who are leading the way forward.

Lisa is a co-founder of the nonprofit, Families for Conscious Living and the executive editor of Kindred.  Lisa shares her personal stories of shifting in features, such as Spiritual Composting, in Kindred and other conscious parenting publications.  In her presentations at conferences and workshops, she inspires parents to look toward Joseph Campbell's Hero's Journey for guidance on transforming themselves as a path to transforming our unsustainable culture.  Her Parenting As A Hero's Journey Virtual Retreats and publication launched in 2015.

To catch up more with Lisa visit www.KindredMedia.org

Finding and Giving Your Love Bomb, With Becky Diel, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant

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In this podcast I get the pleasure of interviewing my own lactation consultant, Becky Diel.  She was like an angel to me in the days following the birth of my son when this were going haywire with painful nursing and mastitis.  Her presence completely shifted me and my family back into the sweet love bubble trust of the newborn adjustment phase and her continued support was like an anchor throughout.

She has been around birth and moms for over 18 years with experience supporting moms and babies in scenarios ranging from straight forward homebirths to hospital births to complicated births and high acuity hospitals.  She loves working with families and helping moms to get started on their breastfeeding adventure.

In this interview we talk about her journey into landing on this path of service, the angels who helped get her where she is today, and how she uses the power of listening to land fully into the moment in support of moms and babies.

She shares about her vision for how happy breastfeeding moms and babies contributes to a more sustainable and happier world.

She will inspire and calm you at the same time!

To connect directly with Becky please email her at BeckyDielIBCLC@gmail.com

If you are in the Napa area please join us for our next "New Mommy Love" event to receive a free consult with Becky on reclined nursing (we welcome pre and post-natal mommas to come in, be supported, and learn).  Go to blossomlife.com to see when the next event is.

Addiction, Healing, and Service

Dr. Rhea Zimmerman with long time friend Melissa Sivvy while on tour with Love Bomb in New England during the fall of 2014.

Dr. Rhea Zimmerman with long time friend Melissa Sivvy while on tour with Love Bomb in New England during the fall of 2014.

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This interview features the story of a long time friend Melissa Sivvy whose recovery from paralysis of the legs after Guillain Barre Syndrome and then healing from alcohol and drug addiction has deeply inspired me.  To literally watch someone find their legs again is a thing of grace.

She is now finishing her master's degree in psychology at Goddard College and is registered as a non-licensed psychotherapist in the state of Vermont. Her work lately has been focused on Refuge Recovery (a Buddhism-based program for addictions of all kinds), which has lead her to an interest in providing proper care for incarcerated people who suffer from addiction and other mental health afflictions. Melissa intends to pursue a PhD in Forensic Psychology where she will gain the training and knowledge needed to advocate for policy changes within the United State's corrections system. 

Resources for help with addiction and finding connection to others mentioned in the podcast are:

Alcoholics Anonymous

Refuge Recovery

and another not mentioned is

Attitudinal Healing

 

Do You Aspire to Serve? Do You Know a Teen Who Does Too?

Do You Aspire to Serve?  Do You Know a Teen Who Does Too?

Do you have a dream of service but don't know where to start?

Today I am interviewing a local leader in teen service about her journey from aspiration to action, Jeni Olsen.  (Check out her local chapter of Roots & Shoots here in Napa, California right here).  She is in preparation for a  March 30-April 3 2015 teen service trip to Haiti with the organization Soles 4 Souls, and there is still an opportunity for a few more teens to participate.

Stickers, Service, & Kids Love Bomb Project? A Mini-Summer Lesson!

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Hi There!

Some of you have seen the film Love Bomb and others are still waiting for the chance,...once you do you will see that part of our story is that we collaborate with an elementary school to have the kids draw little love bomb stickers that we bring with us to gift to the children that we see there.

Well, this year we are going during summer vacation,...so kids are out of school!

We are looking to gather 100+ stickers to bring with us and we'll need them in hand by Wednesday, July 30!

This is where you and your kids come in!

Would you like to have your kids do a little summer sticker service lesson?

Here is what you'll need:

1.  Blank stickers (If you can't find blanks, printer labels will do just fine that you cut to separate for us!)

2.  Coloring pens, crayons, or pencils

3.  Envelope and stamp to send 'em to us!

Here is the lesson:

Ask your kids to think of something nice that will "brighten someone's day" that they can draw or write on a sticker that a child in Peru will enjoy.  In years past the kids have received these stickers like little "collectors items" that they put in special places.  It becomes a fun game and sweet exchange.

Here are some more examples:

We will bring the stickers with us and take as many photos as we can of children with the stickers to post in a follow up blog right here for you to share with your kid's!

It's a sweet little late-summer service project.

Are you in?  Awesome!

Please send the stickers to arrive by Wednesday, July 30 to:

Blossom Chiropractic Studio, 1834 First St., Suite 3, Napa, CA 94559

Thank you for playing!  

Big Love, Rhea

What is the Best Kind of Happiness for Health?

A beautiful child in the village of Pampallacta, Peru where our team was serving chiropractic.

A beautiful child in the village of Pampallacta, Peru where our team was serving chiropractic.

Happiness seems to be a buzz word lately, and for good reason, one of the foundational drives of our lives is to be happy.  

According to recent research happiness can be divided into two broad categories:

1.  Happiness from getting something.

2.  Happiness from giving something.

What is fascinating to me as an advocate for living love, is that while both types of happiness are valuable to our health and quality of life, it seems that happiness from giving something actually produces uniquely better results when it comes to increased immune system function.  The evidence continues to point at the fact that we are literally designed to thrive through giving love to one another.

What do you think?  

Check out the full article here from The Greater Good Science Center:  A Healthier Kind of Happiness, by Jill Suttie

Host Highlight: Karen Shuffler, Asheville Premier

Hi, It's Rhea here, with another Love Bomb screening host highlight.  I am learning from every person who chooses to host a theatrical screening in their community.  This hostess was a special surprise:  my sister's mother-in-law, Karen Shuffler.  In the beginning I assumed that the vast majority of screenings would be hosted by chiropractors who would have built in reach for their events.  It has been a wonderful surprise to me that the first 3 Tugg screenings out of the gate have been hosted by non-chiropractors.

It was my mission when making the film to tell a story about transformation through love that resonates with a broad audience.  I am lit up seeing that it is hitting that mark and inspiring people in all walks of life to "drop a love bomb"!

This is an interview between me and Karen about her experience of dropping the Love Bomb on Asheville through a theatrical screening: